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Intro [Jun. 19th, 2004|11:27 pm]

[mood |tiredtired]
[music |Handel - Telemann - Bach - Vivaldi - Pachelbel - Cannon In D Major]

Don't know if I'll fit in here; I've made my mistakes, and I'm not sure "perfect" is the right word... ;) But I try my butt off, and the kind of stupidity that translates into selfishness against one's own child (or any children, for that matter) drives me up a wall, so I thought I'd try it.

Name's Kallisti. I have one child, a 16-month old girl. She's unbelievably gorgeous (some photos) and far and away one of the happiest kids I've ever seen. I tend to be quiet and withdrawn a lot myself, and she can and does break that wall with (a red plastic) sledgehammer all the time--as if I needed a reason to love her.

I breastfed (until she got enough teeth to draw blood!), homemade all her baby food, and took a big pay-cut to have a job I could work from home--but the thing I did that really convinced me that I was a whupass mommy was leaving her father. He was my best friend and I loved him and he really wants to be a good dad, I'll give him all that. But he had a wicked bad temper, and there was no way I was going to raise my daughter with the idea that it's normal for men to choke, throw, or otherwise abuse the women they're with. The day he tore a glass-paneled door off its hinges and splintered it into bits about ten feet from the baby was really the last straw, I think. So about six months ago, the morning after all this, I grabbed her and my suitcase and split. The divorce has actually been amicable--I think he feels like shit, and he should--and that's where I'm at right now, trying to handle being a single mom and losing the biggest relationship of my life and realizing every damn day that she was totally worth it. She's been worth everything, from the 22 hours of labor to all the sleep-dep and thereon up.

Maybe you guys bitching can help me keep making good decisions for her, because it's not always easy. ;)

Nice to meet you,
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(no subject) [Mar. 13th, 2004|09:00 am]

[mood |chipperchipper]

Hi everyone. I've been a member for a few weeks but never posted. I'm an naturally attached mom of Charlotte (7), Sage (4), Ethan (my stepson,4) and a baby due this July.

We were talking about the Mother who is charged with stillborn son's death over in the unassistedbirth community. In various "natural" parenting forums I also saw people trying to defend this women before the whole story was even out. Saying things like oh they are picking on her, Blah blah, but I had a feeling from the very beginning this women was not right; I mean just LOOK at her photo. Am I wrong to pre judge by the photo? Maybe? But come on my insticts were right! she's a nut job. There's usually more to any story.

I had a discussion with my mom about it last night. She asked if I had heard about the case and what the details were about. I told her some unassisted/natural birthing people were getting all upset about her prosecution because it sets a precedent for all mothers who want to chose not to have an Caesarean, even if it means the baby could die. I'm not worried at all about that. I mean come on if your a creditable person, responsible and educated what do you have to be worried about? Maybe I'm not paranoid enough.

It does suck that yet another wacko is headlined through the media creating a bad vibe for women to make there own choice about birth issues but it doesn't scare me. i guess because I am a perfect parent.
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One more link :) [Feb. 4th, 2004|08:53 am]

This one is about installing a car seat correctly. If you have someone who can install yours or check please do so. I think something like 85% of carseats are installed incorrectly.


Here is the article on extended rear facing. It does include pictures.


A picture of a five year old rear facing. I'm not sure if I am going to rear face that long but it does show that he isn't uncomfortable.


I hope I haven't bugged anyone. I do love to see parents who don't take the easy way out everytime!!! People turn their kids around before a year and don't even CARE that their child could be paralyzed for life or DIE.
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(no subject) [Feb. 2nd, 2004|12:41 am]
You are going to love this.

My mother My biological female parent just disowned me.

Because I told her that my daughter is my daughter as she tried to pull my daughter away from me to go watch a movie.  All while my daugther is crying her head off from someone pulling on her.

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Seriously... [Jan. 4th, 2004|12:48 pm]

I really, really respect the opinions of all of the ladies in this community, so please let me ask you a question:

Are the CPS Agents really that bad of people? I'm about to go back to school for social work, and my goal is to get a job at The Department of Protective and Regulatory Services. I want to be a CPS Agent. Yet everyone seems to think that they are out there to ruin families? I don't want to be that kind of person. I want to be a CPS Agent because I want to be out there, rescuing the children that need to get out of dangerous situations.

What do you think?
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(no subject) [Jan. 1st, 2004|12:27 pm]

[mood |angryangry]

altparent brings us yet another parenting gem:
Some thoughts on discipline, toddlers and corporal punishment
So fucking stupid. Makes me very angry. Too mad to say more.
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(no subject) [Dec. 18th, 2003|12:25 pm]
[mood |disgusted, again]

This post in altparent started out innocently enough...but this comment pisses me off. If you choose to administer "sound spankings", or hit at all, you are choosing to brutalise rather than teach. Humans are capable of great patience, self-control, reasoning and problem solving. Concluding that HITTING is the best answer to the problems a child can present is just ignorant.
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Slapping incident [Dec. 7th, 2003|06:26 pm]
This happened probably at least two weeks ago, its old I know, but it still makes me wonder when I think about it.

Mat, my daugther's father, took us to the mall to shop for a while. He let me pick out a shirt at Foot Locker and went to the cash register. Melina, my daughter, walks around the store and I follow her, that's perfectly normal. Then I see a mother, father, and son walk in the store. The son must have been just a few months older than Melina. He started to walk over to Melina and I think to myself "Aww, that's cute," until *WHAM*! The boy slaps Melina in the face!!! I was so shocked I kind of just stood there for a while. The mom comes over and she apologizes and such. I usually avoid conflict so I just let it slide. The kid's father, who was off looking around the store, came over and heard what happened and he yells at his kid "Yo, you don't hit girls!". HIT GIRLS?! You don't hit ANYONE!! The mother tells her son to give Melina a kiss. He does but kisses her so hard it knocks her over. The mom apologizes again and the father yells "What the hell are you doing! That's not how you kiss a girl!". Again, I don't say anything, but I'm agitated enough that I walk to the other wall of Foot Locker. I keep thinking to myself "What on Earth are those parents showing that kid!" I pick up a shoe to look at and the lil boy comes over again, UNsupervised, and slaps Melina AGAIN!!!!!!!

I had enough at that point, I walked over to Mat. He was just about done paying for my shirt and we left.

Everytime I think about it, I just wonder what goes on in that household.
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WTF [Dec. 1st, 2003|04:55 am]
[mood |enragedenraged]

I hope this is a troll. Some stupid bitches shouldn't have ovaries.
If it is a troll, what kind of freak makes a fake journal to post entries about being pregnant and doing drugs? I'm interested to see her post develop..
And in pregnantteens? Way to make teen pregnancy fit the stereotype bitch. Doesn't help other teen moms who are doing right by their babies make a better name for themselves.
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(no subject) [Nov. 26th, 2003|10:54 am]
[mood |shockedshocked]
[music |and horrified]

Holeeee Shit.
"...the Ezzos, since in Preparation for Parenting, they state that, 'while maternal-infant bonding may be an interesting psychological idea, research has not substantiated any such cause and effect relationship in human beings.' "
This Gary Ezzo has created some of the most fucked up shit I have ever read. Hardcore religious freaks scare me anyway, but ones who write childrearing books? *shudder*
Some Q & A
Becoming UN-Baby Wise
Some more Q & A
This is written by a guy who used to work with Gary Ezzo. *more shuddering*
Sad Failure To Thrive Story

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