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(no subject) [May. 18th, 2005|12:33 pm]

I'm thinking of getting a part-time job this summer.

Here's the thing: James, my sons father, per my request, works nights. I could really use a little extra money for things, and especially for baby stuff for Niblet (I'm expecting and due November 15th). Financally, James and I will always be pretty well-off. His parents left him a lot of money when they passed, and my family has a lot of money also. So I wouldn't be doing it for the money, if you really think of it. It would be a few hours a few days a week, for a little spending money. I also think I miss the grown up stuff. I'll be moved into James' house by next week, and we sit and talk for hours, but I need a more varied social life.

I'm also wondering about daycare for ONE DAY A WEEK. Maybe not even daycare, but like a little camp. He'll be three in August, and I'm thinking it could be a little young, but at the same time, it's Jamie we're talking about, and he's very social. I don't want him to have a big shock when he starts school in two years. I'd like for him to make a few little friends, he always does well socially, but doesn't really show enough interest in making a lot of friends. Maybe I could start a play-club at the park or something?

So yes, I'm going to look for a part time job, for about three days a week. Jamie will usually be with both me and his dad, or at least one of us, except for about one day a week.

What does everyone think?

(x-posted like you just don't know)

Backround info: Jamie is my son, who will be two in August, he's very smart for his age, works well with others... I have just ended my first year of college, where I was gone for six hours a day, usually. He spent that time with his father, and I made sure he was always with one parent. I will not be gone for more than a few hours, if I decide to work.
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Glad to find you [Feb. 26th, 2005|05:11 pm]

Hey now,
Glad to find a community of like-minded parents. I know that DH and I are doing the best we can for our daughters. We are 'perfect parents.'
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(no subject) [Jan. 29th, 2005|06:28 am]


I am beoynd angry. This woman at toddlertime  made  a post asking for friends (the post on the community and her personal journal is now deleted. Pussy.) and so I kindly  went to take a look at her journal to make sure she wasn't quazi illiterate, a nazi, or a babywize follower. She wasn't.

She was, however, a drug user as a child. I'll say this again. She used drugs and she has a child. That is, in my opinion, one of the most distructive, selfish things you could ever do. And to do it when you have a child is unexcuseable. It just is. I hold the right to judge your ass if you get blasted and then come home to a house full of children. There is NO EXCUSE.

So now she's flameing me on my personal journal http://www.livejournal.com/users/saucy_wench/208620.html?nc=6 . Will someone just call CPS on this chicks ass?

This is really further evidence that there should be some kind of test in order to have children.


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Nursing Grandmother?? [Dec. 12th, 2004|02:38 pm]

Ok, I don't like my mom. That's normal. But... wouldn't YOU protest, too???

I still nurse my toddler (25 months). My folks came over to visit. My mom pulled up her shirt and showed her breast, offering my son to nurse! I was PISSED. Would you protest? I did. My folks got upset at me for doing so (in MY house), and both of the stressed that it was okay.

My mom nursed her three kids for about six months each. I've always thought that it bothered her to see my nursing my toddler. But now SHE is attempting it. Is that normal? What do you think? Is that okay? Would you protest? Am I overreacting? I do NOT want my Toddler nursing from any other woman: His nursing is not for nourishment anymore; it is for comfort.

See, I like my MIL. But is she had attempted to nurse my son, I'd be pissed, too. I'm wondering if my mom has ever nursed my son while she was babysitting. Whether she has or not, the episode this morning has proved her unfit for hanging out with my kids under no spuervision of my kids' parents.
So do you think that I'm overreacting? Again, should I be pissed? Wouldn't you be?

Cross-posted like a raging lunatic in boob_nazis, parenting101, perfect_parents, and toddlertime.
really, I am furious. I crossposted in many places to get many responses, supportive or not. I'm still shaking from the adrenaline as I type!
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new person and rant [Dec. 11th, 2004|10:32 am]

hi all. my name is jillian, 24, got a 11 week old babe named lucien. i love rant communities so i thought id join especially cause everyone seems to think im nuts for APing. and im not sure i get what "idiots" is in the links above. is that sarcastic?

my rant is the "real food" issue.

everyone is like when is he going to eat "real food" - as in solids. hes fucking 2 months old!! yes im breastfeeding, plan on doing it for quite some time. no he doesnt get supplemented. no he really doesnt need a bottle of water every now and then.

and ive noticed that AP parents actually like being with their kids. i take public transportation a lot of places and there are some parents (moms mostly) that pretty much just ignore their kids. i can understand being tired but i dont think i ever have that "someone shoot me" look that i see on other moms. i have to work full time so every second i spend with my boy is precious. i can be utterly exhausted and waiting at a bus stop for 45 minutes but i still smile and dance and talk to him. of course who knows when hes older and more rambunctious. i might have that look too.
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i hate everything gerber! [Dec. 9th, 2004|05:04 pm]

when we started feeding my son solids, we lived with my husband's parents. i had constant problems with them doing things that i did not want them to do with my son, but the main problem was feeding him. i made it very clear that i wanted him to eat only vegetables at first, and only real, whole foods, made by us, not by gerber. i guess that didn't compute to my MIL, who would buy jarred peaches and ask me if it was okay. she is from a different era and simply didn't understand. she thought that if it was gerber, it must be safe for babies.

she would buy:

gerber fruit snacks (first ingredient: CORN SYRUP, followed by sugar, etc. etc. artificial colors, etc. etc., why not just give him some candy!?)

gerber teething biscuits (ingerdients: bleached processed devoid-of-nutrients flour, followed by crap, crap, etc.)

gerber veggie wheels, crackers, misc, etc. (same ingredients as above with "natural flavors + "vitamins")

SUGAR FREE KOOLAID!!!! (wtf, have you ever heard of water and juice?! okay now i'm just ranting, lol)

my question to everyone is, did you make your own baby food? i used a foodmill and pureed everything by hand. i also mixed it with, yes, GERBER rice cereal, because i didn't realize that *gasp* i could puree my own damn rice. next time i'll do exactly that. you grow up with the idea that gerber is the only normal thing to feed babies, and i think that when you realize how ridiculous that is, it's shocking. i've seen women ask questions about feeding their babies homemade food, is it "safe," and i've seen advice to use canned vegetables! how is it possible that we're so far removed from feeding ourselves and our babies that we think the only safe things to eat come out of jars and cans? scary.

on a brighter note, my MIL has really shaped up and keeps good snacks around the house, like goldfish, and only has 100% juice (although i wish she'd give my son more WATER than reflexively reaching for the juice, but you have to pick your battles), and for the past two halloweens and easters she's made really cute goodie baskets with non-candy snacks and cute little toys. but i still am flabberghasted at how backwards society's notions about feeding are.

p.s. i wonder if it would be useful to make a community about making baby foods? i remember i had a lot of questions when i started, even though now it seems so intuitive. it could include recipes, ideas, and even a debate about chewing up food for baby, hahah!

*EDIT* i found a community for making baby food, babyfood_athome. shucks!
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(no subject) [Nov. 2nd, 2004|10:59 pm]


Click for a link!
(You know you're hot stuff...)

~* Laura *~
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perfect parent here, hi how you doing :) [Sep. 24th, 2004|05:32 pm]

Mother-to-be Mellisa Williams worries about how the noise from jackhammers will effect her unborn child.

Smoking a cigarette, apparently, is not a concern.
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(no subject) [Sep. 23rd, 2004|11:19 am]

I'm going out on a limb here, and I doubt anyone will actually go for this but... I have a friend in need. She is a pregnant teen but her mother refuses to let her have a baby shower so now her little girl is going to be born without all the goodies a lot of us thankfully got to give our children.

I'm throwing her a baby shower behind her mom's back... thing is - I only have 4 people to invite and that's not much. If any of you guys would be interested in getting her something (however small it doesn't matter, it's the thought that counts) PLEASE EMAIL ME. PlsmaChic@excite.com

She's having a little girl, & she's due on October 8th (so this is all really last minute)she hasn't registered anywhere because she doesn't think she's getting a shower, and the only thing she has is a crib (and she's breastfeeding). She could use diapers, pacifiers, outfits, etc. or even a gift card to babies r us or something... Thank you for everything and God bless.

Please help her if you can... Thank you.

~* Laura *~
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i just joined [Aug. 8th, 2004|05:28 pm]

[mood |gloomygloomy]

my name is sarah. on the outside i am timid and constantly taking into account the feelings and perspective of others. but on the inside i am raging with the "i hate you, moron" disease. i honestly know everything and i would like to see anyone argue that ;). of course, i don't argue, because i "understand what you're saying. . ."

anyway, enough wit for one paragraph. i am a stay at home mom of the two year old, love of my life Gaige. i support "attachment parenting" and unselfish devotion to shaping him as a human being and whatever else his existence encompasses. i writhe inside at some of the stupid shit that people do and think about child-rearing and dealing with children in general.

my sister in law is pregnant with a boy, and even AFTER i've proven every one of her arguments wrong, and pointed out how circumcision is violent, traumatic, and completely uncalled for (mind you in a very diplomatic and understanding way!) she has stopped emailing me and i'm almost positive she will go through with it because she is a subservient victimized twit and hasn't the capacity to think for herself. basically i am reaching out desparately for support, as i am personally affected by this and i don't know how to handle her stupidity.

anyway i hope i researched the meaning of this community enough to be bringing the right kind of attitude here. if not i can always gracefully reconsider. nice to meet you all.
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